How to Avoid Cults That May Try to Convert You

Identifying a Cult

Research the group online. If you are being asked to join an organization, don’t immediately say, “Yes!” Instead, spend a bit of time online researching the group’s background, history, and any recent mentions. Pay attention to how the group determines membership and whether or not they seem more inclusive or exclusive. Be wary of groups that are relatively unknown or ones that take pride in their secretive status. Local news sites, in particular, may provide solid leads on which cults are currently active in your area.

Look for one person who is in complete control. Most cults are organized around the whims and leadership of 1 or 2 central leaders with absolute authority. These leaders are often charismatic and pride themselves on their ability to lure others into the cult. Watch out for leaders who set inflexible rules for the group and dispense severe punishments, too. A leader might also vocally claim to be the leader of the cult organization. Beware of leaders who are exorbitantly wealthy.

Be wary of both small and large organizations. Most people assume that a cult needs to be a large organization with many members, usually working under 1 leader. However, many cults are smaller in size and only grow slowly over time. This makes law enforcement authorities less likely to notice them.

Look for similarities in dress and overall appearance. Cults thrive on uniformity and that extends to how cult members look on a daily basis. Beware if a group demands that all members wear particular clothes. They may also pressure members to cut or dye their hair, so that everyone looks the same.

Stay away from groups that preach about the dangers of ‘outsiders.’ Cult members and their leaders will often act as if they hold the truth and everyone else is less worthy. If you get the feeling that a group that you’re in likes to exclude others, then you may need to give yourself some distance. Some cults even pressure potential members to cut off all ties with close friends and family members. For instance, cult members might tell you that “only they really care about you.” This can be a way to drive you away from your close support network.

Push back against pressures to change your beliefs. Cults thrive on conformity and expect their members to think along the same lines. If you express your thoughts about a subject and are met with hostility or pressured to change your mind, then you might be dealing with a cult. For example, a cult leader might say, “You might have a future in our organization if you decide to believe…”

Staying Away from Cults

Be cautious when responding to surveys or donation requests. Many cults will get their members to approach you on the street in order to ask you to complete a quick survey or to solicit cash or goods donations. They may also go door-to-door. If you choose to participate, be careful in what information you provide. If you are interested, ask for their contact information, so that you can do some research before reaching out.

Look for cults that pose as non-threatening groups or clubs. To avoid scaring potential new member away, many cults will actually hide within a large organization or operate as a fairly common organization. The key here is to watch if the group’s expectations begin to change over time or if certain more radical members start to take control. For example, some cults pose as Bible study groups or even volunteer organizations. They may wait an extended time before revealing their true nature to individual members.

Recognize if you are a target of “love bombing.” This is when a cult focuses all of their attention and resources on persuading a particular person to join. They might bombard you with affectionate gestures until you feel pressured to give in to their requests or demands. They might also act as if you are central to the group, even if you just barely know them. For example, they might give you lavish, expensive gifts in order to show the rewards you can get from their group. These gifts usually won’t last after you’ve given in.

Being Safe When Interacting with Potential Cults

Ask lots of questions. If something concerns you about an organization, reach out to a leader or member and express your concerns. Watch to see how your questions are treated. In most cults, questions are belittled or ignored, as they are believed to undermine the authority of the cult’s leader. A true organization, like a real church, will be transparent about their doctrine and answer your questions. For example, you might ask about the group’s leadership structure and if they’ve ever considered following a voting or democratic system.

Push back against increasing control. Cults thrive on being able to micro-manage even the smallest aspects of member’s lives. They may want to tell you what to eat, how to dress, or even where to live. If you recognize these signs, then you may want to leave the group. Or, you can try to go against these rules to see how the group reacts. A cult leader might ask that you “only dress in subdued colors, such as pastels.” Or, they may strongly suggest that you grow your hair out to a certain length.

Seek out emotional and mental support from your family and friends. Cults often prey upon the vulnerable. They look for people who are undergoing major transitions in their lives, such as leaving for college. Then, they offer the illusion of stability and support. When you are feeling vulnerable, reach out and maintain close contact with your family and friends.

Watch for drug abuse. Some cults use hallucinogenic drugs, like LSD, to supposedly tap into a higher level of being or consciousness. This drug use may be limited to just the leader of the cult or the upper-echelon members. Easy access to drugs can be another way that a cult can lure in members. To convince you to use a drugs, a cult member might say, “If you take this pill, then you’ll be able to relax and be a better member of the group.”

Contact the police if you are being harassed by a cult. Once they’ve set their eyes on you joining, a cult might not take kindly to you rejecting their offers. If you feel as if you are in danger of if you are just concerned for your well-being, it’s best to reach out to local law enforcement authorities. You can tell them your concerns and ask for their advice and assistance.