How to Not Be Boring With Your Boyfriend

Incorporating Adventure in Your Relationship

Try adrenaline-fueled activities to get out of your comfort zone together. Adrenaline is a chemical that helps us fall in love, so boosting adrenaline can boost your love and excitement. Do activities together that will get your heart racing and your blood pumping! Try activities like skydiving, ziplining, and bungee jumping. If you're on a budget, try indoor rock climbing and paintball for inexpensive date ideas, or consider going hiking for free.

Set a goal to try at least 1 new and exciting thing together a month. Sometimes boredom strikes when things cycle in the same routine, so add some excitement to spice things up! You should both commit to seeking new activities, like trying a new recipe or restaurant for date night. Try a cuisine neither of you are experienced with. You can find an interesting recipe online or in a cookbook, or make reservations at a new restaurant. Other ideas include exploring a nearby city, visiting a museum or art gallery, and attending a sports game together. You can also try going hiking, canoeing, miniature golfing, bowling, or roller skating.

Plan a surprise weekend getaway, if you can. Don't tell your boyfriend where you are going, and just tell him you have a weekend planned for him. Try a staycation for a cheaper budget, or a road trip if you want to see new places! Go camping in state or national parks, or book a hotel room--bonus if it has a hot tub! Getting away from your usual routine will freshen up anything dull. Choose somewhere exciting to both of you but where neither of you have traveled before. If you aren’t able to spend the whole weekend together, try to just take a day trip adventure!

Connecting Through Conversation

Chat about the beginning of your relationship. Bring up your first date, how you met, and the things you first loved about each other. Simple reminders will trigger your memories. Revisit some of the things attracted you to your boyfriend in the first place, and use these elements to spice up your relationship now. For example, maybe you used to always watch the sunset on summer evenings or used to go get ice cream after your soccer game was over. Try to make doing fun and familiar activities a habit again.

Ask each other questions to deepen your connection. Having an open and honest chat will let you learn more about each other and connect deeper. Let your questions lead into interesting and engaging conversations with your boyfriend. Try to listen more than you speak. Listening is an important skill and it can help you relate to your boyfriend on a deeper level. You can find question ideas online, such as The 36 Questions That Lead to Love, or ask him anything that you’d like to know. Ask questions like, “What is your most treasured memory?” and “What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?”

Hold an exciting conversation about mutually interesting topics. Start off a conversation by telling your boyfriend what’s on your mind or mention something interesting you’ve learned recently. Add interesting details to the conversation. Ask questions to keep the conversation going, and always listen closely to what he has to say. Talk about interesting topics, like the news, politics, or recent discoveries. Or, sprinkle in things that interest you, like music, movies, or sports. Say something like, "Wow, I never knew you and your dad were so close. My dad used to always take me to baseball games, too."

Read the same book and discuss opinions of the plot and characters. Select a book on a topic you both enjoy, and read it together. After you’ve finished the book, chat about your thoughts. Ask your boyfriend what his favorite part was, and talk about your favorite or least favorite characters. Using the book to start conversation is an easy way to connect with your boyfriend. You can go with a book you’re reading for a class in school, one of your childhood favorites, or a new book that just hit the shelves. Try a magazine or short story if you don’t want to read a long book.

Pick a new TV show to binge-watch together and talk about the show. These days there are countless interesting shows to stream, so find one you both like and watch a few episodes back-to-back. Then, discuss the show afterwards! Try shows in genres you both like, or try a new genre together. If you don't have a membership to a streaming service, sign up for a free trial for Hulu or Netflix. You can also find a show running back-to-back on cable.

Rekindling Your Passion

Laugh together as often as you can to keep things fun and positive. Find any opportunity to make your boyfriend laugh. Tell your boyfriend a funny joke or a silly story. Watch a funny TV show, a comedy skit, or a humorous movie. Laughter triggers endorphins, and endorphins make you feel good and promote well-being.

Compliment your boyfriend to show him you care. Whether you’ve been together for 2 weeks or 2 years, compliment your boyfriend often so he knows you appreciate him. Instead of generic on-the-surface compliments like "You're so handsome," try something unique like: “You’re so smart. I love how you analyze issues so deeply.” "I have so much fun around you." "You have such a cool style." "You make me a better person."

Send flirtatious, naughty text messages. Comment on how great your time together was, or mention how excited you are to see your boyfriend. Give previews of your plans together, like hinting that you bought a new outfit. You could also send racy pictures to your boyfriend to get him even more excited!

Hold hands more often. Whether you are running errands or walking around your neighborhood, hold hands when you can. Physical contact releases a hormone called oxytocin, which increases intimacy and enhances trust.

Touch your boyfriend affectionately. Give your boyfriend a back massage or shoulder rub. You can place your hand on his shoulder, or maybe put your feet over his when you watch TV. Touching each other will increase passion while expressing your love.

Kiss your boyfriend passionately. A kiss can say a thousand words, so show him how much you care by giving him frequent, passionate kisses. You can pair these juicy smooches with softer kisses as well. Kissing also boosts oxytocin, so the more you kiss, the more connected you'll feel!

Set a romantic mood in your bedroom. Light some candles, use silky sheets, and set out some new massage oil. Play romantic music or try some new lingerie. All these elements will set the tone for romance and add some interest to your sex life. Always make sure both parties give consent before you try anything new intimately. You want to respect each other’s boundaries while still exploring each other deeper.