Spending Time With Others
Make friends. It seems to be an easy and fun thing to do, but remember that most of the people won’t really, truly care about you, and they only want to know your life so they can gossip about you. So choose your friends carefully, but be sure to get out and find good, trustworthy people you'd enjoy spending your time with.
Don't share your personal life with everyone. Everyone in dorms converses with everyone else, especially if they’ve formed little cliques/groups/squads. If you go telling everyone your business, don’t be surprised when your life turns into the focal point of everyone’s entertainment. Keep in mind that social media plays a huge part in this. If you follow/friend request everyone you meet on Instagram, Snapchat, Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, etc., you’re setting yourself up for a hard time. Unless you want to feel like you have to monitor everything you post, use caution when following/friend requesting people.
Avoid unprotected sex. Unprotected sex can result in contracting an STI or pregnancy. Even if you know and trust the person you're sleeping with, it's always safer to use protection. If you do choose to have unprotected sex, make sure both of you are tested for STIs first. Still be wary of this, as pregnancy is still a risk.
Using Your Own Gear
Bring your own appliances and electronics. This can include a refrigerator, a television, cooking supplies/silverware, movies, DVD/Blu-ray player, video game system, etc. You do not want to get too comfortable using other people’s stuff, even if they’re your roommate, because if things turn sour between you, you’re out of luck.
Don’t share everything. Avoid sharing all with your roommate/friends because they may start using you just for your things, they may break something, they may misplace or steal your things, and your roommate or friends may villainize you once you try to take your things back. Don’t put yourself in that position.
Keeping Safe and Sensible
Don’t go looking for trouble. When you see drama poking its ugly little head around the corner, go the other way. Don’t approach it, don’t converse with it, don’t play with it, just ignore it and go in the opposite direction. If someone seems to be in trouble, call for help immediately.
Figure out if you can trust your roommate(s). Trusting your roomies is fine, and it’s great to be able to leave your room and not have to worry about anything being out-of-place when you get back; however, your judgment of who you can and cannot trust must be spot on before you even think about leaving your valuables out in the open.
Think carefully about sharing food. Sharing food can become problematic, because some people may take advantage of you and end up eating too much of your limited food supply. Only share food with people you trust not to behave this way.
Coping with Challenges
Learn to live with noise. Realize now that your neighbors are probably not going to be as quiet as you’d like them to be 90 percent of the time. Also realize that there isn’t always a lot you can personally do about that. It’s just something you’re going to have to learn how to deal with and ignore. Try turning music up decently loud and sitting with your phone or speaker as close to you as possible. This will help you tune out any loud sounds next door.
Work out a "privacy signal" with your roommate. College is often a time for sexual exploration. As such, you or your roommate may from time to time need some privacy in your room so they can bring their sexual partner there. A good way to make sure neither of you walks in on the other mid-act is to set up an indicator that the room is occupied and in need of privacy. Common solutions are to hang a tie, sock, or bandana from the doorknob.
Realize that the only cleaner will be you. You are no longer in the luxury of your home, which means that the bathrooms are often going to be disgusting, and there’s not much you can do about it. Get some shower shoes. Flip flops or sandals work, too. As mentioned, dorm bathrooms aren't the cleanest places. Avoid getting any of that shared filth on your feet by wearing shower shoes.
Comments
0 comment